As parents, you are programmed to protect your children, sometimes even from themselves. You have learned to do that by being with them every step of the way – feeding, helping, coddling, reassuring, and constantly checking.
No wonder mothers panic when it’s time to let go of the reins that have ensured the safety of their kids. Letting go is a simple act of stepping back and allowing the young ones to experience the freedom of choice and the independence to make decisions. This is where your parenting style can play an important role.
Mindful Parenting Vs. Emotional Parenting
Emotional parenting is when you allow your emotions to dictate your behavior. Worrying about what-ifs and viewing everything as a life-threatening event triggers your stress responses, harming the child in the process.
Mindful parenting, on the other hand, teaches you to be conscious of the present. Being aware of what’s happening around you and the children rather than letting your emotions take control.
Both parenting styles are not wrong, but they can stop the progress of your kid. So, here are some key factors that can help you in letting go.
Drop The Myths
Raising a happy child is a myth. Raise an emotionally well-adjusted individual instead. Moms should always be calm is another belief that isn’t true. Being a perfect mom is the mother of all myths. Get rid of those notions along with others that demand more than what you can give as a parent.
Set Boundaries & Expectations
By doing so, you will be helping your kids help themselves. For, e.g., after a certain age, let them set the alarm and wake up independently. If they fail to, they’ll face the consequences. They will learn responsibility and accountability. The goal here is not to punish them, but to teach them independence.
Understand Your Intentions
Think about where your decisions come from and what’s the intention behind your response to a situation. Children are smart, and they can smell your intention even before you become aware of it. Be wise and put their interests ahead of your own.
Respond, Not React
Reacting is when you holler to stop your kids from fighting. You end up adding tension to the already charged atmosphere leading to adverse outcomes.
Responding allows your children to express their feelings, thoughts and acknowledge what triggered the fight. It teaches them to be more aware and responsible for their emotions.
Becoming a better mother is a matter of choice. Remember, small changes in your mindset and approach can do a world of good for your precious ones. Taking the time to master these key aspects of parenting can do wonders for the relationship with your children.