There are certain questions you need to ask if you have been searching for your one true love but haven’t recorded any luck with that. These questions will help you evaluate and determine what exactly your soulmate should be like while also giving you an idea about the reason why you are yet to find him.
Deepak Chopra, a speaker and an author said that the more a person knows himself, the more the person can manifest. For that reason, looking inward stands as the first thing to do on your journey to finding your soulmate.
There are some questions that can assist you in carrying out aninward evaluation. The questions will help you know how exactly to find your desired soulmate and also give help you understand the probable reasons why you have not met him.
1. Are you truly ready for a relationship with your soulmate?
So many people are looking to start a relationship not because it is their true desire, but because of the society’s expectations. That shouldn’t be your reason for wanting to have a relationship. You need to ask yourself if you are looking for a relationship simply because all your friends have gotten married and are with kids while you are still the only single one. If that’s your reason, you need to re-evaluate it.
- So many people are looking to start a relationship not because it is their true desire, but because of society’s expectations
If you are also currently recovering from your last breakup, finding a soulmate might not be the actual thing you need at the moment. You need to have clarity about what exactly it is you desire from a relationship.
Clarity makes it very easy to pass the message across to people you meet or date online. Thus, ask yourself the important question: why exactly do I want a relationship?
2. Are You Judgmental?
Thus the question isn’t directed only to how you judge other people, but also how you judge yourself. You don’t judge people you love because hatred is an offshoot of judgment. It is simply impossible to love someone yet judge them. Thus, if you love yourself, you wouldn’t be judging yourself.
Do you judge your looks, your body or your job? Have you already judged what type of wife you will be? You need to write down all these judgmental thoughts. Same goes for how you judge men too.
You need to write out these judgmental thoughts and acknowledge that these thoughts are not the true state of things. Your next move will be to replace these thoughts with statements that are true. For instance, if you always pass judgment on your body, you can substitute that with a true statement that you have a definite knowledge that your soulmate would adore and love your body just the way it is. Each time you find yourself having any judgmental thought, be quick to replace the thoughts with these truth statements.
- You need to write out these judgmental thoughts and acknowledge that these thoughts are not the true state of things
3. Do you reveal your true nature?
Are you the kind of person who has to hide behind a mask? It is advisable that when you are dating, you try as much as possible to be yourself. However, there are several relationships where you find that you are cutting out your beliefs and values and even your body just because you want to be with a person you think is your soulmate.
In fact, there are people who had to sacrifice their own happiness just to make the guy happy. It is a common conception that women are people pleasers and have been traditionally taught to ignore their own needs and wants at the expense of that of their husband or family.
However, you shouldn’t have to separate your true self just because you want to be with a person. An awareness of the way you’ve been sacrificing yourself just for others help you make different and even better choices. That doesn’t happen overnight but with time, it will be easier for you to make better decisions
4. Are you aware of the difference that exists between loving and being in love?
Love is man’s authentic and natural state. When you are in love with a person, you usually have expectations that they would meet certain needs.
When you find someone you love and who also loves you in return, then you guys have fallen in love. You need to know that the love which you feel for that person is actually within you and you cannot get it from other people. What only happens is that other people can activate it.
Loving, however, is a continuous action and also a state where you are grateful. Loving a person means you are deliberately showing the person the kind of love you feel for them and the fact that you care about them.