It is a fact that millions of people all over the world actually spend most of their times on the internet every single day, most of them are actually on social media either just browsing or actually actively posting.
Some people have always been taking the risk of meeting someone on online dating sites. People are not that gullible anymore when it comes to these matters, which is why catfishing is no longer that huge in numbers unlike before wherein people would often get fooled.
Nowadays, more and more people are actually trying their luck to find someone by chatting with people they connect with on some dating apps. However, it was revealed in a recent survey that most of the people would actually rather not meet up with the people they’re talking to, here are some of the most common reasons why.
The Online Chemistry May Be Better Than Reality
One of the most common reasons why people who go to dating sites and talk to people they connect with refuse to meet up, maybe because they think the chemistry is better off online. Experts have actually backed this up by revealing that a huge percentage of people who actually considers themselves socially awkward, find it easier to meet people online and talk to them there, compared to actually having to talk to them at a public place or a social event.
Another reason might also be because they are scared that the chemistry they would have online would fade or would not be present at all when they meet up. This is because it is easy for people to pretend or make up a little lie on text compared to in person. They might have lied about a certain detail which could be stopping them from meeting up.
It’s Just For Pass Time
Another common reason would be because they may see it as an online fling. It may be something that would just help them pass the time. This is actually pretty common for those who are not exactly looking for a commitment or may actually just want that certain someone to spend time with them on chat.
They don’t exactly see it as wasting time because they consider each other’s virtual company to be very nice and it makes them feel good in a certain way, but still not good enough to actually meet one another.
This is also another case to what they refer to as an ego boost for some. It is very common to find someone online and have a somewhat virtual intimate relationship with them that would not go over exchanging a couple of explicit texts and pictures. This may just be for an ego boost, that they may not be getting in real life. Some people do need that kind of reassurance that they are actually wanted.
Real Life Would Interfere
That would then lead to another reason for not meeting up, and that would be because their virtual life may actually interfere with their real lives. There are actually a lot of people on the internet who seek that ego boost despite being married or committed to someone.
They might not exactly feel wanted anymore or no longer feeling that passion so they seek for it online, without having to sacrifice their real relationships by doing an actual physical deed of unfaithfulness, even if experts believe that doing this online may be considered as cheating as well.
Not meeting up would make them feel safe since they don’t need to worry about actually having to be with someone else. That means they still value their current relationship and just want to fool around.
Expectations vs Reality
Last but definitely not the least would be no meeting because of the fear that their expectations for one another may not be met when they actually face each other in person.
It is so easy to change your personality, your likes and dislikes since you are merely describing yourself to someone who doesn’t know you or met you in person at all. It can definitely be deceiving and it is definitely not fair especially if the other person is being real with you, and that fear of not being able to meet their expectations could be a hindrance. This is also one of the most common reasons why relationships that start online don’t work, but those who genuinely seek may find luck on their side.